Types of Dating Trends you need to know!
In this overwhelming era of modern day dating, most of us are guilty of trying our luck with dating apps such as Tinder, Happn, Hinge, Woo, etc. With social interaction becoming more confusing by the day, we now have to worry about whether we’ve been a victim to galling social behaviors inflicted by our love interests. If you thought that coming up with witty icebreakers to initiate conversations was challenging, detecting such toxic patterns is the newest skill that needs to be added to our kitties just to keep our self-worth strong.
Do you often wonder why after three perfect dates, he stopped responding to your texts? Has it been mind-boggling for you to understand what you did that warranted such behavior from him? Don’t worry; we’ll get you up to speed! To help you identify few of the shitty behaviours exhibited by millennials here are 8 of the dating trends that may just put your muddled mind to rest (just to restore some faith in the establishment the last one is a real winner and could really help you break through the toxicity).
Ghosting : So you went out a few times, you had fun; maybe even hooked up a few times but he stopped texting you back when you asked him or her out for a fourth date? You’ve been ghosted! Ghosting is when he or she suddenly stops responding to you on social media and cuts all ties whatsoever with you. The thought process behind ghosting is that the person being ghosted will take the hint that you’re not interested and stop contacting you without having to really communicate the same in words.
Submarining : You had just recuperated from the heartache or probably found someone who is worth your time but there comes knocking the ghost of your past only to fuck with your head; your ex who ghosted you randomly texts you to ask if you would like to hang as if nothing ever happened between the two of you. Sounds all too familiar? This kind of behavior is called Submarining. It is when your love interest pops back into your life without acknowledging his or her disappearance just like a submarine resurfaces from underwater. It’s probably only wise to openly call out the behavior before you plan on getting back together. This kind of behavior could definitely be a pattern wherein the ghoster holds no accountability for his or her callous attitude and does not feel sorry for repeatedly mistreating you.
Zombieing : Zombieing is very similar to submarining, only difference being the duration for which your love interest was MIA. It is when your ex decides to get back with you after years of losing touch just like a zombie that came back from the dead. If you’ve ever heard of the phrase - when your past calls, don’t answer? We suggest that you get the hell away from him or her!
Haunting : You’ve been breaking your head over why he or she wouldn’t just text you already! What is it with all the passive communication? Haunting is when your ex wants to subtly play with your mind without really communicating directly with you. For example, she liked your two-week-old picture or commented on the latest video that you shared with a nonchalant “OMG, that’s adorable!” Does this mean he or she feels sorry for their douchey behaviour or maybe has realised that the two of you are meant for each other? Maybe or maybe not but this type of passive communication could really be torturous and will most likely disturb your peace of mind or the little composure that you had finally sought.
Breadcrumbing : Breadcrumbing is very similar to how you would drop morsels of cheese to lure a rat into a trap, but in the dating world this does not result into anything concrete. Breadcrumbing is when someone drops hints or clues on your social media by way of sending you a hot picture of them on Snapchat or just a casual, “Hi, you up?” text at midnight. The catch here being these clues do not really translate into anything real, meaning, when you try making plans with them, odds are they’re going to pussyfoot around and leave you more confused than ever.
Stashing : This probably hurts the most because if you’re being stashed then chances are that it has taken forever for you to even realize it. You have the most perfect relationship - you go out often, he is a born romantic, he even puts up with all of your phony friends without complaining but you’ve never been invited to any of his social gatherings or you have probably just heard of his friends let alone met any of them. Stashing feels exactly like the word sounds – you’re a secret he would rather not show the world. This kind of behaviour most likely indicates that someone does not think you’re good enough for them or if you’re dating that f*ckboy - he probably wants to keep his options open and continue shopping on the side.
Gatsbying : This term is coined in reference to F. Scott Fitzgerald’s classic, The Great Gatsby, wherein the protagonist, Jay Gatsby, threw big fancy galas or parties to entice New York City’s top “It” girls of the time. In the modern dating world, this would occur when your love interest drops a picture with her copy of the latest blockbuster read just to depict that she is an avid reader or you put a picture with your friends’ dog just so that she knows that you’re a dog person. This behaviour does enough to invoke curiosity in the love interest’s mind and may even result into a positive outcome where he or she texts you to make plans. To all those naïve men and women out there beware, you were warned!
Breezing : This is hands down the most positive dating trend we’ve come across and we are totally welcoming it! With so many new dating trends popping up that range from a scale of cringe worthy to hateful, we’re happy to introduce you to breezing. Breezing is when you want to cut through the nonsense and just not take all the various dating rules seriously, such as: you want to call her immediately after the first date? Invite her to a football game with your friends in the first week? Or even tell him that you missed him when he was away on a business trip without having to think about whether it is too soon to convey emotions or if it makes you sound vulnerable and needy.
Breezing really just invites open communication without being chained to the age old dating rules that dictated your social interactions and defined boundaries to your feelings. Be careful, as this does not mean that you don’t give a damn anymore or that everything is ‘chilled’. It can be super effective if understood well and may save all of us from all the unnecessary drama that unfolds in modern relationships; if nothing it will give you a good night’s sleep.
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Written By : Devika Mohole
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